"We all enter and maintain a relationship with expectations about how we should be treated, what kinds of conversations we will have, and so on. That is, be conscious about what you want from the relationship."As you begin walking hand in hand with that special someone, it's easy to drift off the path you were walking with the Lord.Little by little, priorities can change as your world starts to revolve around that person and not God.
Maybe you count on him to make all the decisions in your life; maybe you look to her for laundry duty.
And while occasional help in those areas isn't necessarily a bad thing, you still need to concentrate on getting your own life in order rather than relying on someone else to do it for you.
When it comes to giving in to his craving for Italian food over yours for Thai, all is well, but when it concerns deeper issues or becomes an all-the-time part of your togetherness, there's a problem.
Maybe you love to go to the movies, and she can't stand the theater.
New relationships typically thrive on that magnetic draw, but it's important to maintain your identity.
If not, other parts of your life — such as friendships, career focus, and your walk with God — may begin to suffer, not to mention the relationship itself.
Usually, the independent mindset changes gradually — that's what happened to 20-something designer Stella from New York.
"I never noticed it happening over the course of the three years we dated, but my friends and family kept trying to tell me we were in way too deep," she says of her former boyfriend.
Blake, a 30-something banker from Indianapolis says, "When you're around someone [who] you really like all the time, you tend to leave the analytical side of your brain at home and become sort of deaf and blind to their faults.
It may seem great, but over time, I think you get on each other's nerves more quickly because there's not any distance.
Spending time with Him and growing closer to His heart is the only surefire way to ignite your life with renewed purpose whether you're in or out of love with another person.